Who is allowed at the Hospital?
It's an exiting time. You're running out the door. Grabbing the bag that has been packed for weeks. Trying to remember all the breathing techniques that have been pounded into your head through countless YouTube videos. You have your 10 copies of your birthing plan in hand. However, you forgot about the most important thing.
Who is allowed at the hospital?
Everyone is going to be so excited to meet your little bundle of joy that they may start heading up to the hospital the second that they hear you're on your way. It's not like the olden days where Dad's smoke cigars in the waiting room, they are right up in the action. Sometimes, without even knowing what you, the one doing all the work, wants.
First, it is very important to find out what your hospital allows. The hospital I delivered Clarke at had a strict no visitors under the age of 12 policy. They didn't care if it was the proud cousin of this precious baby boy. Under 12 was not allowed. Period. Better to be safe than sorry and check your hospital's policy before a nurse has to turn away little Sally.
When I delivered Clarke, I had a strict no visitation order put on my room. Not because I had just endured two lengthy abdominal surgeries, but because I didn't want anyone there. I was in the hospital for a week. That was my week to start my recovery (the "full" healing time was 2-3 months), learn to breastfeed, and learn to care for this new life. I didn't want my time plagued with do gooders who wanted to snap pictures with my new born just to post on social media and leave. Nah. I almost died bringing this life into the world and I was going to selfishly enjoy every cry and poopy diaper with my baby daddy.
If you are the type of person that does want visitors, remember you control what goes on. If you want people to leave, tell them. (Or tell one of the nurses on staff and they will more than happily be the bad guy for you.) If you don't want anyone there at all (or only want specific people), that's okay! You're dealing with so much, mama. It is their job to know how correctly react and respond to the situation, not you. Do not think you have to be responsible for other people's emotions...with all the hormones, you can barely control your own.